By: Stan Popovich
I struggled with fear and anxiety for 20 years.
One of the greatest fears I had to deal with was the fear of the future. A lot of times, I would worry about what would happen if I was unable to manage my fears in terms of my career, relationships, and personal life. I came up with some techniques that might help somebody in dealing with the fear of the future.
The main thing I learned is that no one can predict the future with one hundred percent certainty. Even if the thing that you are afraid of does happen there are circumstances and factors that you can’t predict which can be used to your advantage. Here is an example to prove my point.
Let’s say at your place of work that you miss the deadline for a project you have been working on for the last few months. Everything you feared is coming true. Suddenly, your boss comes to your office and tells you that the deadline is extended and that he forgot to tell you the day before. This unknown factor changes everything.
In terms of my fears and worries, I would try to predict the future and I was never 100% percent correct. I learned that I may be ninety-nine percent correct in predicting the future, but all it takes is for that one percent to make a world of difference.
Secondly, I learned to take it one day at a time. Instead of worrying about how I would get through the rest of the week or coming month, I would try to focus on today. I realized that each day can provide us with different opportunities to learn new things and that includes learning how to deal with my problems. The more you learn about how to deal with your fears the better off you will be down the road.
I also incorporated the power of God to help manage my fear of the future. God is the only person who can predict our futures and asking him for help is a great way to relieve your anxieties. Praying and asking God for help will increase your chances of getting through your fearful situations.
A lot of times, I realized worrying can make the problem even worse. All the worrying in the world will not change anything. I realized that all I can do is to do my best each day, hope for the best, and when something does happen, take it in stride. If you still have trouble then talk to a counselor who can give you additional advice.
Stan Popovich is the author of A Layman’s Guide To Managing Fear which is located at http://www.managingfear.com